The misadventures of a misguided model/mom
image description: a parent taking a photo of herself and her son in a mirror. they are both wearing dresses. his has coloured flowers and a lavender/purple waist band. hers has pinstripes in several colours on the bodice and a black skirt.
I took this picture of Oli and myself today at the pool. After we got done swimming, we were walking home and had to pass by a group of cheerleaders that were practicing on my uni’s campus. One of the cheerleaders looked at Oliver and said, “She’s so cute!” With a smile on my face, I ruffled Oli’s hair and said, “HE.” as we continued walking past her. Immediately the girl winced, turned to her friend, and said, “Oh my god, she’s turning him gay..”
I am not turning my son gay by allowing him to express himself by wearing a floral dress. I’m so sick of people making comments that I’m altering my son’s sexual orientation or his gender identity because he’s wearing a dress. IT’S A DRESS. IT IS LITERALLY CLOTHING. If he is gay, that’s cool, I’ll accept him no matter what, and if he decides at any point he’s anything but a boy, I’ll still accept him (er, them/her). But allowing him to pick out his own clothes and taking him clothes shopping with me so he can pick out what he likes is not going to have ANY affect on his orientation/identity. The only concern I have about him wearing a dress is when he pulls it up to show me how big his tummy is in public, because I don’t want him showing a bunch of strangers his underwear.
If he was a little girl wearing a pair of shorts or a t-shirt with a dump truck on it, no one would say anything, because dressing as a boy is different. People see wearing a dress as a negative thing when you’re a boy, they say he’ll turn gay and that I’m a bad mom and I’m trying to turn him into a girl. But the bottom line is that him wearing a dress has nothing to do with being a boy or his orientation. If he’s gay, he’s gay. He’s too young to slap a sexuality on him at 3 and a half, and that’s not something I’m particularly worried about, because at this age he treats everybody the same and doesn’t have comprehension of what sexual/romantic attraction is. Wearing a dress has nothing to do with that.
He is a boy. He plays with dump trucks, rolls around in dirt, growls at everyone, and pretends to fart for fun. He also paints his nails, is obsessed with Sailor Moon, refers to himself as Princess Oliver, and yes, wears dresses. He is a boy.
You sounds like an amazing mother.
SO FREAKIN EXCITED
Can we skip summer and just have this for six whole months??
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Officers have tanks now. They have drones. They have automatic rifles, and planes, and helicopters, and they go through military-style boot camp training. It’s a constant complaint from what remains of this country’s civil liberties caucus. Just this last June, the ACLU issued a report on how police departments now possess arsenals in need of a use. Few paid attention, as usually happens.
The worst part of outfitting our police officers as soldiers has been psychological. Give a man access to drones, tanks, and body armor, and he’ll reasonably think that his job isn’t simply to maintain peace, but to eradicate danger. Instead of protecting and serving, police are searching and destroying.
If officers are soldiers, it follows that the neighborhoods they patrol are battlefields. And if they’re working battlefields, it follows that the population is the enemy. And because of correlations, rooted in historical injustice, between crime and income and income and race, the enemy population will consist largely of people of color, and especially of black men. Throughout the country, police officers are capturing, imprisoning, and killing black males at a ridiculous clip, waging a very literal war on people like Michael Brown.
America Is Not For Black People (via wilwheaton)
WHO THE FUCK MADE THIS?! I LOVE YOU!
Oh god! The funny!
Every. Damn. Time.
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ive come here to receive a rub
This is the rabbit version of my 10 lb cat Lily… Such a pet whore. So needy… So adorable…
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Yes, Richmond. You do.
There’s belief and hope and love and pride and admiration on his face all at once.
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And then, there’s Tyler.
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"I don’t know what I thought it was gonna be. Honest to God, I did a movie and a couple of little TV shows when I was 16, didn’t do anything again, got into drama school. Then I started working pretty much immediately after drama school. I wasn’t really aware of what was going on, and I still hadn’t really decided that I was an actor. I hadn’t sort of said to myself "Right, this is the rest of my life," because you can’t, because there is still a big massive part of me saying, "What if the work dries up tomorrow? Then I’m not an actor any more," you know?"
If you ever stop acting, James, I have a home for you.
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The life and times of a busy model/mom/working student.